Meaning of Life
There a God?
"My beautiful daughter has died. How can I go on? How can God permit this?"
There is a foundational truth that you must believe: God's love and mercy are infinite. Therefore everything that happens to us in life, good and bad (from our viewpoint), is the best thing, of all possible things, for our salvation and the salvation of our loved ones.
If God allowed your daughter to have only a short life, then He believes that it was the perfect time to take her to heaven. To think otherwise would be to limit His mercy and love, and that is not possible. God is also infinitely compassionate and fair. Your daughter is His daughter also, His darling little girl. As He will with every one of His children, He will find a way to bring her home to Him. The Church has many saints, but places no one in hell. If God can find a way to bring the greatest sinners to Himself, your daughter is assured of a very high place in heaven indeed.
Our life in this world is just the start of our eternal life, and death is not the end but just a beginning. We shed our earthly body, that so often is the cause of so much pain, and begin our eternal life free of this burden. And if you believe, as many Christians do, that we will be re-united with our "glorified" bodies at the Last Judgment, our bodies will then be re-created and made eternal, like our souls. We can't comprehend how this can be, and we are not supposed to be able to, but we have God's word that it will be wonderful.
In heaven, there is no time as we know it: time measures the changes we see in material, earthly things. So it is safe to say that we will all go to Judgment at the same instant, regardless of when we die. You and your daughter will be there to greet each other and hug and talk, just as if you had both died at exactly the same time. She will not have to be without you for even a moment.
Of course, you think it would have been best if your daughter had been allowed to live. But you cannot ask God to change things so that what you think is best will happen. What happens is always what He knows is best. We will not often agree with His idea of what is best, but faith in God is trust that He knows these things better than we do.
Your daughter is infinitely happy, with a perfect body and soul, with God, praying hard for you and rooting for you to join her. And since she is infinitely happy, she must know that you will.
"My three year old son drowned in a pond in August while we were on holiday. I took my eye off him for only seconds and he disappeared. I blame myself and wonder if I am being punished for any bad things I had done.
Do you think Thomas will be ok? I worry because he didn't communicate very well here on earth and maybe he will not be understood in heaven."
You are absolutely, positively, not being punished for anything. God never punishes or rewards anyone in this life. Criminals and drug kings live in big houses and drive the best cars. Millions of good, honest people live in mud huts on the edge of starvation. The circumstance of each life is different, but we are expected to bear up under our pain and not lose faith.
Thomas has gotten a free pass into heaven, and even though his body never had the chance to mature, his soul was created whole and complete and will enjoy the happiness of eternal life with God as well as any adult. Earthly problems do not carry over. Thomas's happiness was in your hands for a brief time, but now he is in God's care. Who better?
Whenever someone dies, we always look back and think of all the things that we could have done to prevent it. But in truth, there is nothing that anyone can do. We live our lives as best we can. Since God is infinitely merciful and compassionate, we know that He always takes people home to Him at the best possible time in their life.
Since Thomas died at the age of three, we know for certain that God considered that to be the best possible time in order to be sure that Thomas could achieve salvation. There is nothing that you should have done to prevent him from passing on to God's care at that precise moment. Trust Him: His will must be done and His plan must be fulfilled for each of us.
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